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Marijuana Smoking for Moms- Is is a Complete Bliss

Does your pregnancy make you feel nauseated? If you occasionally feel like throwing up in such situations, then there’s nothing really surprising about it! The very sight of chicken salad might make stomach turn, and eventually, you might be badly tempted to smoke the pot so as to ease your morning sickness. Does it really help after all?

Researchers in the American College of Obsetricians and Gynocologists (ACOG) state that more than 5 percent of women indulge in smoking marijuana during their pregnancies. More so, the number of would-be mom smokers is expected to witness an exponential rise in the coming years. Why is it so?

Well, most of the women believe that smoking cannabis ameliorates anxiety, and morning sickness during pregnancy. In fact, some of the expecting mothers have also claimed that weeds smoking boosts their appetite, and serves as a stress reliever. Also, many women have testified that marijuana satiates their cravings for brownies and cookies. Sounds cool, right?

Well, things aren’t the way they appear to be! Like any other drug, Cannabis Sativa, commonly known as marijuana has its side-effects, and after-effects despite providing temporary relief to the expectant women. Some women are prone to smoking pots, and cigarettes, which makes it difficult to ascertain the actual side effects of the former. Scientists have also stated that alcohol is more harmful for pregnant ladies than cannabis. This, however, does not mean that smoking marijuana is safe by all means. So ladies! Just think twice before smoking a pot! You would be inevitably harming your unborn baby!

How marijuana affects the health of mothers and their babies:

  • High level of toxins: Though many women claim that cannabis smoking acts as an anti-depressant, and stress reliever for them, it has its ill effects. The smoke has carcinogens, and toxins, which harm the lungs of the fetus. Of course, the mothers’s breathing system is also bound to get affected. In fact, doctors even advise the expecting mothers to stay away from bonfires, since any kind of smoke inevitably damages the lungs of the unborn.
  • Risks during birth: Many states have stigmatized marijuana smoking among pregnant women, since it heightens the risks of still births and premature births. This is because the smoke adversely affects the functioning of blood vessels in the fetus.
  • Other harmful effects in the long run: Studies have proved that cannabis smoking impedes brain development and memory skills. Also, babies are underweight during birth in such cases. These kids are prone to become drug addicts in their adulthood, and are also very likely to develop neuropsychiatric problems. They also tend to have short attention spans and behavioural issues, thereby show very poor progress reports at schools.
  • Harmful effects on breastfeeding: Doctors strictly advise the breastfeeding mothers to abstain from smoking pots, since the Tetrahydrocannabinol (THC), a very harmful ingredient passes into the blood stream of the new born. Moreover, babies become passive smokers, especially when their mothers smoke in their presence. Carbon Monoxide released in this process proves to be detrimental to the health of both.

Is it safe to chew cannabis:

Many women think that chewing the weeds reduce the risks entailed in smoking pots. This is, however, a gross misconception. In reality, it turns out to be more deleterious than smoking. This is because chewing releases more amount of THC into the blood stream than smoking.

Are You Really Safe While Dating Online

Dating is a salubrious experience, and I believe, everyone has the right to go through it! In this context, I would rather say that people have the right to fall in love, not just once, but a multiple number of times. Sounds heavenly, right?

In fact, many people tend to look for suitable life partners, and hence, go scooting around the city pubs, night clubs, bars, and restaurants to meet new people. There are others, however, who wish to meet their “dream lovers” on the net considering it to be a safe bet. A lot of people are lucky enough to meet their ideal partners through the various social media platforms, and dating sites, consequently ending up in happy marriages. The others, however, aren’t so fortunate! Where do things go wrong?

Here is a caveat for you guys! While many men, and women are apprehensive about meeting new people offline, considering the possible perils entailed under such circumstances, online dating could result in throes of anxiety and distress. What could be the reason behind this?

The wise have stated- “All that glitters is not gold.” This holds true in many instances of online dating. You might have genuine feelings for someone, whereas it could be a different story altogether on the other side. Who knows! The person chatting with you from the other side could be a complete imposter after all!

In fact, dating sites, and social media have become game for numerous fraudsters, scammers, spammers, Ipredators, sociopaths, psychopaths and other cyber criminals who keep trolling the networking sites in search of their potential victims.

Researchers state that a large number of men, and women fall prey to these tricksters who indulge in catfishing with various malafide intents. Though a considerable number of men get conned by these tricksters, most of the victims are women. While offline dating could lead to certain pitfalls, online dating is a complete minefield!

So, you need to play your cards really well while choosing to date someone online! To avoid cyber-bullying, you need to be aware of the modus operandi used almost by all the con artists:

Why and how these con men operate:

  • Scammers and Spammers: These people mostly target the loners, especially divorcees, widowers, widows, single parents and disabled. Their motive is to target vulnerable people, befriend them, and slowly victimize them. These con artists create fake profiles by pirating through the net, and lifting photos of other people from different websites. So, if you get a friendship request from someone looking like a hunk, or an overly sexy looking female, then better watch out! You are very likely to fall into the dragnet of a romance scammer! 

If a person half your age professes love for you, then consider it as a red flag! Such scammers pretend to be West European, or American men who keep traveling on business. In fact, they try to lure their targets by professing love towards them. Also, they indulge in wanton chats, and request their victims to perform some sexual acts on the web cam. For some reason or the other, their own webcams always remain dysfunctional. They ask the victims to share their photos online, and in return, send pictures, which are not their own. Most of these scammers operate from countries such as Nigeria, Ghana, The Ivory Coast, Russia and other countries. They use fake profiles for cat fishing purpose, and finally extort money from their victims by feigning some kind of emergency situation. If you try to rescue them from their financial crisis, they ask you for more. They seem to have unending number of bills, or debts piling up!  In case, you get frustrated, and stop paying them further, they resort to abusive language and blackmail at times.  In such trying cases, they might threaten you about sharing your personal videos with your friends and relatives.

Sometimes, your fancy suitor might forward you a few links, or phishing emails. Beware! Your phone, or computer would get infected by malware, or your device would be hacked! You are being targeted by a spammer!

  • Predators and Psychopaths: Online predators and psychopaths are always on the prowl in search of victims, especially single women, widows and single mothers. They try to befriend their targets, and pretend to fall in love within a few hours of knowing their victims. O ladies! Just be careful! You could be dealing with a con artist, or sex predator intending to harm you in the end. In fact, a person indulging in sweet talks could be a paedophile who solely wishes to gain access to your kids. Be careful, and don’t give out your personal phone number and home address. Once these people get your address, it becomes very easy for them to trace your location. In the US, a person’s address could be traced through the whitepapers. The person just needs to know your name! So, just think twice before giving out your name to a stranger. Many cases of thefts, vandalism, molestation, kidnappings, rapes and murders are reported every year. Kids go missing, and are sexually abused. Most of these cases seem to stem from online dating where people fall preys to Ipredators. Often, single moms unknowingly end up marrying paedophiles who are after their kids. Well, this also reminds me of Vladamir Nabokov’s Lolita, a classic novel, which cites Humbert Humbert, a middle-aged professor taking fancy towards a Dolores Haze, a 12-year old. He courted the child’s mother, and married her, only to come sexually close to her. So, beware ladies! Paedophiles have been existing since ages. They exist even now! They exist everywhere! 
  • Gamers: I might sound a bit racist in this aspect, but several women are victimized by gamers every year. Most of the men from the west have fetish for the women of Asian origin, and hence befriend them on reputed social media platforms by making false promises of love. They pose as bachelors, or divorcees who have plans for traveling to Asian countries on business. In reality, they are married men who leave behind their families, and travel abroad on short term, or long term projects. They need “good companions” during their stay. Many cases are reported, in which these men get connected to the petite looking Asian women, before visiting their place, seduce them by making false promises of marriage, and later vanish. 

How to identify the con artists:

  • They mostly pose as West European, or American men who keep traveling overseas.
  • Their profiles have pictures of men, or women of European descent who hail from deemed varsities in Europe and America.
  • Most of these people are widowers or divorcees in search of life partners.
  • Their profiles are written in English language copious with grammatical errors, though some of them are crafted with ingenuity.
  • They profess undying love towards you in flattering words as soon as they meet you.
  • They insist that you move to a different instant messenger outside the social media, or dating site where they have met you. This is because social media sites like Facebook are constantly vigilant about suspicious users, and could pull down their profiles any time.
  • Their chats are obvious due to misspelt words and grammatical errors.
  • Their words are sugar-coated, and they seem to agree with whatever you say.
  • They coax you to come on the web cam, but their own web cams fail to operate due to some unknown reasons.
  • They call you on the phone by using prepaid cards. You cannot trace their numbers via Google search.
  • They are frequent travellers who fall victims to unprecedented emergencies such debts, accidents, hospitalization, illness and so on.
  • They request you to relieve them from such distressing situations by paying up their bills. They keep milking your funds till you start suspecting their ulterior motives.
  • If you question them, they become abusive.

While it’s imperative to keep oneself safe from such traps, women should also take certain precautions before meeting their online suitors. Do not forget that he is a stranger after all, and could be a threat to your personal safety. Keep these points in mind before meeting a stranger:

        • Never agree to meet in a private place such as your home or hotel. Always choose to meet in a crowded café, bar or restaurant.
        • Avoid revealing your bank account details, passport number, SSN to someone online. This could lead to identity theft, and your name could get embroiled in unexpected scams.
        • Don’t give out your home address to your man. Decline his offer to pick you up from your residence. Travel on your own to meet him.
        • Try and avoid drinks offered by him. You never know they might be laced with sedatives.
        • Keep your friends, or family members posted about the place where you plan to meet this person.
        • If your man decides to change the venue of your date at the last moment, just decline to meet him.
        • Avoid talking about your kids to a stranger. Know him well before introducing them to your little ones.

Imposters exist everywhere, and you might never know that your online mate might be chatting with you from the next door house. It is very difficult to track them since most of them form  huge nexus, and operate overseas. People need to act gingerly while interacting with strangers whom they have never met before. my aim, however, is not to dissuade people from online dating. There have been several cases of online romance, which resulted in successful marriages. Keep yourself safe, and you would surely find your “dream partner”!



Dating Advice for Women in 40s

Hey ladies! Let’s face it! Gone are your 20s when you flirted around with studs, or 30s when you went preening about the multiple number of dashing young men who were floored by your charms. Women in 40s face a different scenario altogether. It is difficult to meet a plethora of men at this stage of life.

The wise, however, have stated that wine becomes tastier with time. Likewise, women in 40s are more mature, intelligent, and poised as compared to their younger counterparts. These attributes add to their charms, which inevitably attract men. In many cases males show preference for women in 40s. Ask them to reason out, and the general response is- Ladies in 40s are more beautiful, and sexier than the younger women, and sure of what they really want. Mature women exuberate wisdom and confidence.

So, here you go! Most of your friends are married, and settled at this stage of life. You cannot be entertaining notions of flirting and frolicking anymore. Dating in 40s is entirely a different ball game. So, think before taking a decision.

Here are a few tips for women in 40s to make their experiences worthwhile:

  • Know what you want: Be sure of what you want out of a relationship. If you had been focusing on your career all this while, and wish to get married now, then choose your partner after a careful thinking. There are some women who want a kind of change after a break up or divorce. In such cases, they do not want to settle down with another man in haste. Eventually, they are content with light-hearted flirting so as to forget their unpleasant experiences. So, decide what you want out of a new relationship. 
  • Be sensible: Be wise while choosing your soul mate. The days of high school crushes are gone for god! You can’t be falling for every hunk who crosses your path. Remember that there are schemers in the guise of men who are on the prowl to ensnare single women. They could be dating you just for out of greed for the dollar bills stashed away in your bank account. While the rest would be secretly eyeing your property. So, don’t get conned by honeyed words, and sweet promises.  Choose a man who shows genuine interest towards you, and your family. If you have kids out of previous relationship, and wish to get married again, then choose a man who is capable of being a real good dad. 
  • Choose want over need: Be explicit about what you want out of a relationship, but don’t showcase yourself as a needy woman. Men tend to misconstrue need as a sign of weakness in women.  Hence, be confident about yourself, and don’t let men trample over your emotions.  Men in general tend to think that women in 40s are desperate for attention and love. Avoid portraying yourself as a pitiable female without options. The world is a harsh place after all! 
  • Be a realist: Stop fantasising, and bearing romantic notions. Be pragmatic rather than being sentimental. Even Shaw’s Raina overcame her disillusionment, and chose Captain Bluntschli instead of Sergius, ridiculed as a “romantic fool”. Choose a man who could be your mental support, instead of someone who isn’t sure of himself. 
  • Take your time: Don’t jump at conclusions. Be subtle, and yet suave while choosing your man. Observe your guy when he calls you out for a date. If you are on the lookout for a serious relationship, then make it a point to test his true feelings. Take your decision only after being sure of his intentions. This is imperative, especially in cases where women are date online. Never trust a stranger by his words. Make it a point to meet him quite a number of times instead of falling for a new guy via net. 
  • Know him well: Try your level best to read your man’s mind. See whether he is truly committed towards you. Avoid getting duped and hurt. In case, your man shows signs of being non-committal, then make up your mind to leave him for good. Make a move to go ahead with your life till you find a true partner.





Excellent Dating Tips for Women in 30s

Hey folks! Let’s start off directly, and drive the point home! In your ripe 20s, you must have flitted around, kissed a few morons, cavorted at parties, while trying to gain a strong foothold in your career. Well, those halcyon days for you are gone for good, and a new beacon beckons you towards your 30s. Most of your friends are married by now. In case, you too have a surging urge of getting married, and raising a family, then it’s high time you started taking things seriously. The biological clock is ticking away, and hence, you need to make up your mind about finding the right partner for yourself.

Some women tend to remain single even in 30s due to certain reasons. In certain cases, women come out of failed marriages, or past relationships. The others seriously focus on their careers in their 20s. These women wait till their work, and personal lives reach a smooth balance. If you are tweaking towards a serious relationship, then take a stock of the situation very closely before taking a decision.  In the end, your goal is to attain a long lasting relationship out of love and satisfaction.

Here are some excellent dating tips for women in 30s:

  • Leave your past behind: Your past has passed away. So, stop thinking about it anymore. You might have experienced a failed marriage some time back, but try and trash the god forsaken memories. It is a bit difficult to do so in the beginning, but essential all the same. You cannot start a new relationship afresh with your past clinging to your mind. Every new day ushers in a new ray of hope, and you too must start taking things with a positive heart. It is possible that things could really turn out well in your new relationship. 
  • Ask your man why he wants to date you: It is very important for you to find out why a guy wants to propose a woman in 30s. You certainly have some plans, and are serious about settling down. Find out whether your man is really serious about settling down with you. In case, he shows interest in a long term relationship, then make it a point in talking about your future plans. If you are not sure of his motives, then bring a couple of friends to meet him on a certain date. You need to ascertain his intentions. It’s also possible that you have kids from a previous marriage. Just know the guy well for the sake of your family’s safety. If you have the slightest inkling about the guy being promiscuous, then stop wasting time with him, and call it quits. It’s advisable to walk out of a relationship before getting hurt. 
  • Stop pitying yourself: Don’t let self-pity overwhelm your pride. There could be arguments, and disagreements during a couple of dates. Your guy might have exposed his sour side to you, but no human being is completely perfect! Stand on your ground with unflappable disposition, and don’t let a feeling of self-suffering cower you. If your man has genuine feelings towards you, then he would surely come around, and make up for his rudeness. If your man keeps doing, or saying things to hurt you, then don’t lose time. Dump him aside, and move ahead. 
  • Have fun: Have a great time with your man as long as you are out on a date with him. Keep aside your office, or personal problems at that time. Go for a movie, or dine out. Go out for a party with him, or do whatever you can so as to keep all kinds of troubling thoughts at bay. Have a great time as long as you are with your guy, and don’t let depressing ideas creep in, only to spoil everything for you. 
  • Communicate freely: Women in 30s are wise enough to discern their own minds. So, do not let any misgivings weigh down upon your heart. In case, you have any issue pestering your mind, then talk to your man. Speak frankly. Get a clear picture before moving ahead. 
  • Know your man’s mind: In your 30s, you cannot be fiddling about with guys. Your man could be a stud, but then then you need to find out true feelings as well. If he finds excuses for not receiving your calls, or pretends to be busy most of the time, then it’s time for you to pre-empt any further bid in this relationship. You aren’t the only woman in his life.
  • Trust your gut: Always trust your conscience. Your inner mind would never lie to you. Go ahead in a relationship only if you feel that a particular man is the right choice for you. Trust your mind, and not your heart. If you feel that the guy isn’t the right choice for you, then don’t waste your time with him anymore. Move ahead. The world is full of promises for all!


5 Dating Tips for Women in 20s

Being in 20s is one of the best phases in a woman’s life, since she is an adult ready to explore the world. Most of the women at this stage are confident, independent, and mature enough to take important decisions of their lives. This is the time when some women also start looking for suitable partners. So, if you are a young lady on dating spree, then make it a point to follow a few mantras:

  • Find the right place to meet your man: When you make it a point to meet your beau, choose an appropriate place for your first meeting. It could be a social event, bar or pub. The choice rests with you. If your guy, however, insists on meeting you at a bar, or a night club on the first date itself, then you need to watch out! Just think about the types of guys who are regular visitors to bars and pubs. Also, do not forget that he is still a stranger to you. You might be a party-goer, but keep your safety in mind before meeting a new guy. Make it clear to your male friend that you wish to meet him at a social event, Avoid meeting a complete stranger in a secluded spot. 
  • Look presentable: You need not be the snazziest female painting the town red to attract guys. All you need to do is to look good and pleasing. Men like to have women friends who look pretty, and natural at the same time. So ladies! Just stop thinking that you could impress guys by dabbing your faces with expensive cosmetics. Remember that garish looking women are bound to drive men away. Take bath, wash your wash your hair, and look clean before meeting your admirer. Make it a practice to do so whenever you meet your man. All men like clean looking ladies to be friends with. Also, choose your outfit very carefully before going out for a date. Put on comfortable clothes. Do not use too many accessories. Choose colors which complement your skin color. 
  • Know your mind: Women in 20s are mostly young professionals with independent minds. Being in this age slot, you ought to figure out your motive of dating. Think whether you want to date someone with the intention of marrying, and settling down. In that case, take your time in choosing the right partner. Do not hurry, and take decisions. Go out with your man multiple times before making up your mind. Engage him in conversations, which would inevitably lead to the vital topics leading to marriage. If you wish to raise a family, then tell him so. In case, you are averse to having kids, and wish to focus on your career, then make it clear to him. If you have disagreements over certain issues, then try solve them as soon as possible. Make him know your mind.
  • Date Around Quite Often: You could go on dates with more than one at different times before making your pick. Meet people as often as you can. Don’t nurture fixations about any particular man. Hasty decisions could lead to disastrous consequences. If you are not serious about getting married, and settling down with a particular guy, then do not make promises to him. Go for dates with the guy, but don’t do anything to raise expectations in his mind. 
  • Be firm: Be decisive about what you want out of a relationship. It is good to please your partner once in a while, but do not give in to his whims too often. Many women are scared of losing their boyfriends, and hence, do whatever they can, to win their love. On the contrary, men tend to lose interest in women with supple minds. So, you need to be assertive about your decisions. Don’t get into situations, which would make you uncomfortable. If you are not willing to go to bed with your partner on your first date, then flatly refuse such a proposal. If he makes threats of leaving you, then just tell him to get lost for good! 
  • Choose the right man: Women in 20s show penchant for rich, and handsome looking guys. Most of the hunks, however, are idle fiddlers, and dating women is just a kind of pass time for them. Rich guys love to flaunt themselves with lovely ladies hanging on to their arms. Such guys are, however, frivolous, and are not serious about any one particular woman. Bresides, most of them are insensitive to other people’s sentiments. So, avoid taking such men seriously. Do not give them a chance to hurt you. In case, you wish to marry, and settle down, then choose a guy with genuine feelings.

Dating Advice for Women

Are you planning to go out with your boyfriend on date for the first time? If that is the case, then there is nothing to feel nervous about! Dating could turn out to be a highly enticing experience if you handle certain things in a careful manner. It is quite natural for any woman to feel jittery about her impending first date. Everything could, however, turn out to be extremely fantabulous, if you merely retain your self-confidence.

Well, there are a few tips, which woman needs to follow. Unless, you take them in a serious manner, the chances of winning over amiable young men would be absolutely remote. It is not an impossible feat to win over a good partner after all! Just remain cool, and keep a few things in your mind.

Here are a few sound dating tips for you:

Be yourself: Most of the women, especially the ones in their late teens, or twenties make the blunder of trying to pose as someone different from what they really are! Some of them unknowingly turn off their beaus by talking too much on their first date. There are others who try hard to be witty so as to impress their male admirers. Come on! Men aren’t fools after all! If you think that you could loop in your man by using such silly tactics, then you are sadly mistaken! In fact, men like to meet women in their natural selves. So, just try and be yourself. In case, you love to maintain reserve in general, and talk less to people, then do not try to be overact with your new boyfriend. It is obvious that he would not like the false charade, and hence, would not like to see you again. Just remember that he would love to know your real self.

Be presentable: All men want their women to look presentable. They just hate shabby partners. So, make it a point to dress smartly whenever you go out dating with your male admirer. On the other hand, dress up in a comfortable manner. For instance, you might feel that tight outfits would reveal your curves, and make you look sexy. However, you must keep in mind that such a dress would, inevitably make you feel uncomfortable, especially during a long period of outing. Do not put on pencil heels if they make you walk in a wobbly manner. Dress according to your age and occasion.

Be on time to meet your date: Always keep in mind that men do not like to keep waiting for their partners on dates. You might get delayed by a few minutes, but do not keep your man waiting for hours. Also, it is possible that you get delayed once or twice due to unavoidable circumstances. Do not, however, make it a regular habit. Your boyfriend would take it as a strain of vanity in you. That would, obviously hurt his ego, and he would tend to give a second thought to his choice. So, always make it a point to show up on time and don’t let anything delay your meetings.

Avoid playboys: All men are not the same. There are numerous jerks looking out for some kind of fun and pass time. For them, women are merely objects, and not human beings. Remember that these pleasure seekers have a number of women on their cards, and you aren’t the only one! They could dump you any time without actually caring for your sentiments.

Show respect to your partner: All men have ego, and hence, you must not do or say anything to hurt their. Don’t make fun of him if he honestly confesses his love towards you. Men are vulnerable creatures, and almost all of them feel shaky while expressing their genuine feelings towards the women they love. Make your boyfriend realize that you really care for his sentiments. Never make him feel that you have taken him for granted. Give him undivided attention, and show your best etiquettes to him.